Armao on the Brink: with Will Doolittle and Ruth Fish
Dementia is a family disease that affects not just the afflicted person but everyone who loves, depends on, and cares for her. Alzheimer’s and related diseases don’t kill off their victims right away but instead drains them over years of their ability to think or do or even really be themselves. Watching that happen is horrifying and tests caregivers. Writer Will Doolittle knows this. Seven and one half years ago his wife Bella was diagnosed with Alzheimer and told she probably had eight years to live. He writes about how the disease has changed their lives. Rosemary’s family care for her 98-year-old mother who is slowly disappearing. Ruth Fish is a nurse practitioner who offer support and hope and sees the bright spots for families like Doolittle’s and Armao’s.
Will Doolittle is 64. He met his wife, Bella, when he was 13 and living in Saranac Lake, and she came over from Lake Placid to see her boyfriend, Dave, who was one of Will’s best friends. Bella was 15.
Will worked at the Adirondack Daily Enterprise, his family’s business, as a teenager, and then again after college and some time abroad. In 1986, he was living in Lake Placid,, working on the newspaper there, when he went into the Lake Placid bar P.J. O’Neill’s and, after pushing through a crowd, saw a bartender he thought he recognized.
“I think I know you,” he said to Bella.
“Yeah? Half the guys in here think they know me,” she said.
Before long they were seeing each other. After several months, Will moved into the apartment in Saranac Lake where Bella lived with her two children, Travis and Ginny, who were 8 and 7.
Will and Bella got married in April of 1990, and the family moved the next year to Malone, where Will worked as the editor of the local paper, the Telegram.
Bella commuted to Saranac Lake to continue working as a photographer for the Enterprise, then took a job as a bartender at a notorious biker bar in Malone.
They moved to Glens Falls in the fall of 1993, where Will had taken a job as an editor at the Post-Star. He worked as night, Sunday, features, editorial page and special projects editor — not all at once — over the next 29 years, retiring in January of 2022 to stay home and take care of Bella full-time.
Bella worked various jobs and finished her undergraduate degree, then got a master’s and a teaching certificate while she was working full time as a domestic violence counselor at Catholic Charities.
Will and Bella adopted their son Zo in 1990 and daughter Tam a couple of years later.
Bella took a job as a teacher and administrator for the Ticonderoga branch campus of North Country Community College but was forced to retire in 2018 after informing the college in 2017 she had been diagnosed with Alzheimers.
Will was able to keep working for a few years but eventually had to stop. He is now writing a memoir that will include what’s happening with my life now with Bella. He also writes a Substack column about that which you can read here: kentingley.substack.com
Ruth E. Fish is a certified family nurse practitioner with more than 35 years of experience in internal medicine and geriatrics. She is an educator for the Center for Excellence for Alzheimer’s Disease at the Glens Falls NY Hospital. She holds a bachelor’s degree in nursing from SUNY Plattsburgh and a master’s from the Medical College of Virginia at Richmond in Family Nurse Practice and Community Healthy. She has been awarded the Warren County Bar Association’s Liberty Bell prize for work helping adult reach physical and neuron-cognitive wellness. A nurse beloved by patients she also has an extensive volunteer history including helping refugees coming into her community.
